Mentioning the good qualities of his wife
Whenever mention was made of his wife, Hadhrat Siddeeq (RA) would
mention her sterling qualities. This is the true meaning of the
Hadith,
“When mention of the dead is made, then speak of their
good qualities. Don’t speak of their evil qualities.” (This
does not mean that we should have ta’ziyati jalsahs.)
When someone spoke of her, Hadhrat (RA) would always
mention her good qualities. Doubtless, whatever good
Hadhrat (RA) mentioned about her, she was definitely even
better than that. Her habits and mannerisms were certainly a
lesson for other women. I will mention a few of her habits and
practices, perhaps Allah Ta’ala will grant some women the
taufeeq to practice on them.
Patience at the time of poverty and constraint
Hadhrat (RA) had mentioned on several occasions that, “My
wife was from a rich family. My father in law held a very high
position. They lived like the Nawaabs. There was no hope of
my marrying her as I was from a very poor family. She had
been proposed to a colonel but her future was written
elsewhere by Allah Ta’ala. Allah Ta’ala desired that she marry
here.”
“She spent her life with me in poverty. However, she was
very tolerant and made lots of sabar. She would sew clothes
and sell them to cover the home expenses. She was not extravagant in her food. At times she would eat chutni and
roti, at times dry bread and sometimes she would also cook
some gravy. When there were guests, she would prepare a
potato curry for them as it was difficult to obtain anything else
to cook.
Generally, women have the habit of coveting other women’s
clothing, jewellery, etc. and demand the same for themselves.
However, she did not even take cognisance of what other
women were eating or wearing. She ate and wore whatever
was available. Patience and contentment were amongst her
outstanding qualities. In times of poverty and hardships she
never complained about anything. She did not express an
aversion to any action and would even plaster the walls in the
house with her own hands.
Ibaadaat and Maamulaat
Hadhrat (RA) mentioned, “She was ba’yt to Hadhrat Naazim
Sahib (RA), who was also the Sheikh and Murshid of Hadhrat
(RA). She was more punctual with her Maamulaat than me
and her Maamulaat were more than mine. She would never
miss Ishraaq, Chaast, Awwaabeen, etc. After Maghrib she
would remain in Nawaafil for a long time. She would also
perform Tahajjud Salaah but at times she would miss this
salaah. When I lived at home, I would wake up and she would
also wake up with me and when I was not at home, she would
make an effort to perform her Tahajjud herself. Daily after the Fajar Salaah, her habit was to make tilaawat of the Qur’aan. She
only rose up from her musallah after performing her Ishraaq salaah. She was also very punctual in reciting the Munaajaat-e-
Maqbool (a book on dua). I would lapse in reading it at times
but she would never miss it out. During her free time, she
would always have a tasbeeh in her hand. She would speak to
visitors if any were present, otherwise she would remain busy
in zikr.”
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