The Women of Kandhla

 Hakim al-Ummat Mawlana Ashraf ‘Ali Thanawi (may Allah shower His mercy upon him) said about the women of Kandhla[1]
‘‘Most of the women from the town of Kandhla have studied upto [the level of] Mishkat and Durr al-Mukhtar. There are very few women [there] who have not memorized the Qur’an and remain asleep the entire night during Ramadan.’’ 
Majalis-e-Hakim al-Ummat (Karachi: Dar al-Isha‘at, Dhu ‘l-Qa‘dah, 1366 AH ed.) p. 147 compiled by Mufti Muhammad Shafi‘ Usmani.
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O Sisters!

Let the Hereafter be your objective, your goal. Who says women cannot attain knowledge or excel in worship? There are examples of great women from the time of the Sahaabiyaat and through the ages where women have excelled in knowledge, worship and spirituality. So make the Aakhirah your objective in whatever you pursue, be it knowledge, worship, rectification etc and even in fulfilling your duties to your husband, children, in laws and in serving humanity at large.

Today women pursue equal rights however it is in worldly matters whereas the Sahaabiyaat and their followers pursued in competing with the men in Deeni matters and matters related to the Hereafter. So don’t grieve and concern yourselves with the luxuries of this world. Compete for the Hereafter.

  From Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat (hafizahullah)
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A Good Life

“If you want to live a good life, then follow these guidelines:
1) Don’t mock each other.
2) Don’t unnecessarily joke with each other.
3) Don’t think that you are better than someone else.
4) Don’t give each other demeaning nicknames.
5) Stay away from suspicion. Just don’t worry about what the next person is doing.
6) Don’t spy on other people.
7) Don’t backbite one another.”
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The Bounty of Becoming a Friend of Allah Ta’ala

Hazrat Mawlana Shah Hakeem Muhammad Akhtar Sahib (Damat Barakatuhum) commenced his discourse by relating a recent incident of a scholar who came from Rangoon which is located in Burma. Hazrat Wala (DB) said: “He came from Burma, Rangoon, from a lengthy distance. This is the real thirst. All of you people live in Karachi and deem it difficult to come here. Where is Rangoon and where is Karachi? Rangoon is in Burma.” In other words, look at the distance between Rangoon and Karachi.
“Is attaining the friendship of Allah an ordinary gift? If one has a connection with an ordinary police inspector as compared to a senior officer, then people proudly boast about the connection they share with such and such person. Then what would one say about a person who has a connection with Allah Ta’ala? Who is greater than Allah? No one is greater than Allah, He is the Greatest. In turn, a connection with Allah Ta’ala is the greatest gift, but to attain a connection with Allah Ta’ala one must have Taqwa.”
Allah Ta’ala has said, “None is My friend except those who are muttaqi (God-fearing),” those who are fearful of Allah Ta’ala and protect themselves from all sins. This is why it is very important to leave sin. Leaving sin is the base of attaining the friendship of Allah. If one does not leave sin, then one will be stuck in a state of sinning until one dies, and will face Allah Ta’ala in that state, as a sinner.
Therefore my friends fear Allah. While fearing Allah do not displease Allah regardless of how much struggle one may have to endure. Do not displease Allah Ta’ala even for a single moment whether the nature of the sin is minor or major. Allah Ta’ala is the Greatest, a minor sin is also considered a grave sin to the One that is the Greatest.
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10 Tips For Married Brothers

1) Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time you went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that the Prophet (PEACE BE UPON HIM) would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.
2) Use the best names for your wife. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.
3) Don’t treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it ‘bugs’ us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day – which brings no attention from the husband – until she does something to ‘bug’ him. Don’t treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.
4) If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways the Prophet (saw) used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives (ra). It’s a technique that few Muslim men have mastered.
5) Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when the Prophet (saw) would kiss his wife before leaving for Salaah, even when he was fasting.
6) Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgment she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don’t let that be; thank her!
7) Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don’t have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.
8) Don’t belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. The Prophet (saw) set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah (R.A) was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.
9) Be humorous and play games with your wife. Look at how the Prophet (saw) would race with his wife Aisha (ra) in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?
10) Always remember the words of Allah’s Messenger (saw): ‘The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family.’ Try to be the best!
In conclusion: Never forget to make Dua to Allah – Ta’ala to make your marriage successful. And Allah Ta’ala knows best!!
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O Sisters, Your Brother-In-Law Is Nothing But Death!

The Hadeeth:
A wife should not go out in front of the brother-in-law or be alone with him in the house, because the Prophet (saw) said:
Beware of entering upon women.
One of the Sahaabah said to him, “O Messenger of Allaah, what about the brother-in-law?
He said: “The brother-in-law is death!
[Bukhaaree, Fath al-Baari, 9/330]
Commentry By An-Nawawee:
An-Nawawee, may Allaah have mercy on him, said:
This hadeeth refers to all the relatives of the husband apart from his father and sons, who are mahrams for the wife and she is allowed to be alone with them; they are not described as “death.” It refers to the brother, nephew, uncle, cousin and other relatives of the husband whom she would be permitted to marry if she were not already married.
Because people customarily treat this matter so lightly, and a man may sit alone with his brother’s wife, the brother-in-law is likened to death, and he is the foremost among non-mahram men who should be prevented from doing so.
The expression “the brother-in-law is death” may have a number of meanings, such as the following:
- That being alone with a brother-in-law may lead to religious doom if it results in sin.
- That it may lead to actual death if an immoral deed is committed that dictates the punishment of stoning.
- That it may spell disaster for the woman if her husband’s jealousy leads to divorce.
- That you should fear being alone with a non-mahram woman as much as you fear death.
- That being alone with a non-mahram woman is as terrible as death.
Excuses, excuses:
To those who take the idea of trustworthiness as an excuse, and say things like, “I trust my wife and I trust my brother or my cousin,” we say, “Do not trust too much and do not doubt too much, but know that the hadeeth “No man sits alone with a (non-mahram) woman, but the Shaytaan is the third among them” (Tirmidhee 1171) includes both the most righteous of people as well as the most immoral of people, and that Islam makes no exceptions whatsoever in such reports.
A Final Note:
Likewise the Prophet (saw) mentioned: “…no man should enter upon a woman unless she has a mahram with her.
[Bukhaaree 1729]
O sisters, know who your mahram is, and avoid contact from all non-mahrams.
Your brother-in-law, whether he be smaller than you in age, bigger than you in age, pious, or unpious, whatever praiseworthy or blameworthy characteristics he may posses, is nothing but death!
Fear Allaah and avoid free-mixing.
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Mixing Between Men and Women

Ibnul-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy upon him) said in At-Turuq Al-Hakeemah (1/406-408):
And from that, is that it is obligatory upon the ruler to prevent the mixing of men and women in the marketplaces, (public) areas and gatherings of men. Maalik (may Allah have mercy upon him and be pleased with him) said: “I hold that it is for the Imaam to give priority to scrutinizing the goldsmiths (who are) sitting in the gatherings of women. And I hold that he should not leave the young woman to sit with the goldsmiths. As for the woman of high rank and the man who is a lowly servant, (the woman) having no (reason to have) concern for the gathering and he (the servant) does not care who sits with him, then I do not see a prohibitive problem with that.”
The Imaam will be asked about that; and the fitnah in it is great. He (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “I have not left behind a fitnah more harmful upon the men than women.” And in another Hadeeth: “Separate the men and women.” And in another Hadeeth, he said to the women: “You should be on the outer borders of the path.”
It is obligatory upon him (the ruler) to prevent the women from going out beautified and wearing make-up.  And he must prevent them from wearing clothing in which they are Kaasyaat ‘Aariyaat (Clothed but Naked at the same time); such as clothing that is loose and flimsy. He should prevent them from speaking to men in the streets and he should (likewise) prevent the men from that. And if the ruler sees that it causes corruption to the woman that she, adorns herself with makeup, beautifies herself or her clothing with dye or the likes, then some of the jurists have permitted with regards to that, and they were correct, that he may confine the woman (to her home) if she frequently goes out of her house; and that is the least of the monetary punishments; especially if she goes out wearing make-up. Rather, silent agreement of the women upon that is considered to be aiding in sin and disobedience; and Allah will question the ruler concerning that. The Chief of the Believers, ‘Umar ibn Al-Khattaab (may Allah be pleased with him), prevented the women from walking in the pathways of men and mixing with them in the streets. So it is upon the ruler to follow his example in that.
Al-Khallaal said in his Al-Jaami’: “Muhammad ibn Yahyaa Al-Kahhaal informed me that he told my father, ‘Abdullah, ‘I see the evil man with the woman (i.e. I see that it is the evil man who mixes freely with women)’ He said: He has spoken correctly with it (this statement).’ And the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) informed me (Thus as is in Ash-Shaamilah) that the woman who perfumes herself and goes out of her house is a fornicatress. And he forbade the woman from attending Salatul-‘Ishaa in the Masjid if she has scented herself with incense.”
The Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “When the woman goes out the Shaytaan accompanies her.” There is no doubt that allowing for the women to mix freely with the men is the origin of every trial and evil; and it is from the greatest reasons for the descending of punishment which is general (encompassing everyone) just as it is from the reasons for corruption of the general and specific affairs. Mixing between men and women is the reason for increase of Fawaahish (lewdness) and fornication; and it is from the reasons for general death and contagious diseases. When the prostitutes mixed with the hosts of Moosaa and began to commit acts of Faahishah (prostitution) amongst them, Allah sent the diseases to them so that in one day 70,000 people died. And the story is well known in the books of tafseer.
So from the greatest reasons for general death is the abundance of az-Zinaa (fornication) brought about by allowing women to mix freely with men and walk amongst them beautified wearing make-up. If the rulers knew what that contained from corruption of the Dunyaa and the people under their custody with regards to the religion, then they would be the most stern in the prevention of that.
‘Abdullah ibn Mas’ood (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “When az-Zinaa spreads in a village then Allah permits its destruction.”
Ibn Abid-Dunyaa said: Ibraheem ibnul-Ash’ab told us: ‘Abdur-Rahmaan ibn Zayd al-‘Amaa told us, on the authority of his father, from Sa’eed ibn Jubayr, from Ibn ‘Abbaas who said: Allah’s Messenger (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “A people have never shorted (others) in their measurements nor reduced their weights except that Allah ‘Azz wa Jal has prevented them from expansion. And fornication has not spread amongst a people except that death has spread amongst them (as well). And the act of the people of Loot has not appeared amongst a people except that ignominy spreads amongst them. And a people have not abandoned commanding the good and forbidding the evil except that their actions are not raised up (to Allah) and their supplications are not responded to.”
And may prayers and peace from Allah be upon his Prophet Muhammad, his family and companions.
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